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12 Sex drive Killers


12 Sex drive Killers


People who enjoy a good sex life are generally happier, healthier and live longer than those who don’t.

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There are some areas where we can have control over improving the setting for satisfying sexual experiences:  


(1)         Stress – related to job, money, caring for familly members, life getting out of control.


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(2)         Relationship Problems – Simmering arguments, poor communication, betrayal of trust etc. For women particularly, emotional closeness is tied up with sexual desire.




“Do not let the sun go down on your anger”

– Ephesians 4:26b



(3)         Alcohol – although” alchofrolic” drinks can make you feel less sexually inhibited,  they can also stifle your libido or be a “turn-off” to your partner.


(4)         Not enough Sleep – leads to fatigue; try to retire before 10pm after some wind-down time; if insomnia or sleep apnea is the problem, there is help:




(5)         Parenting – children can not only wear you out, but also preoccupy your thoughts and time. It may be necessary to deliberately schedule some time with your partner.


(6)         Medication - commonly linked to libido loss include:



         Blood pressure medications


         Oral contraceptives (some studies show a link; others don't)


         Anti-HIV drugs

(7)         Body Image – feeling sexy involves self-esteem, even when your partner says they don’t have a problem with what you think is a problem. Strive to work on your shape, tend to your hair and its styling, look after your skin, and maybe rethink your wardrobe for a sexier, less frumpy look.  Being greatly overweight is associated with lack of sexual enjoyment/desire and difficulties with sexual performance, possibly due to lack of self-esteem, unsatisfactory relationships, social stigma, and other psychological issues.



(8)         Erectile Dysfunction (ED) – affects men’s confidence in their sexual performance, which negatively affects their sex drive.


-     ED can be related to and an early warning sign of cardiovascular disease (CVD)  ED is a strong predictor of death from all causes and of heart attack, stroke and heart failure in men with cardiovascular disease (CVD), according to German researchers reporting in Circulation: Journal of the American Heart Association.




(9)         Low TESTOSTERONE - TESTOSTERONE levels tend to fall slightly with age causing some men to lose their sexual interest. TESTOSTERONE is linked to sex drive in women, too. However, supplementing TESTOSTERONE may not be the answer, but rather maintaining the balance ratio with the other sex hormones. (E.g. Using PROGESTERONE Therapy). The “loop factor” here is that TESTOSTERONE levels increase with orgasmic frequency.


(10)     Depression - and also many antidepressant drugs can lower your sex drive




(11)     Menopause - ~50% of women report reduced sex drive through  menopause and beyond. Symptoms arise, such as vaginal dryness and pain during sex, which may make sex uncomfortable and dampen sex drive. Hormonal changes of menopause certainly play a major role affecting libido during this life phase, but also other factors weigh in, including depth of relationship with her partner, body image, self worth /esteem, medications being taken, and physical health. During menopause, estrogen levels do not fall as much as PROGESTERONE levels, creating a situation called estrogen dominance. PROGESTERONE Therapy and other tactics may help restore hormonal balance.


Estrogen Dominance


(12)     Too Little Intimacy – women tend to wrap sex and intimacy together in forming their desire for sex. However, men seem better able to separate the two, which leaves a woman feeling resentful  that she is no more than a sex object. Try spending more non-sexual intimate time together - Converse, snuggle, trade massages. Learn to express affection without having to have sex. As intimacy builds, so does sex drive.






              A group of men being treated for erectile problems saw greater increases in testosterone when, along with the treatments, they had frequent sex. Specifically, men who had sex at least eight times per month had greater increases than those who had sex less than eight times per month.



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